Living in the Lonely

My husband has been gone for two days and I’m lonely.  I walk around the house with plenty of things to do, but don’t want to do any of them.  I haven’t cooked a meal since he left and already the taste of fast food is revolting.  I wander the house, looking for something meaningful to fill my time.  My kids are happy and occupied with each other, school, activities, and friends.  I, on the other hand, have yet to make close friends at this duty station, and I’m left feeling empty and alone. 

     I have been doing this military thing for a long time now and pride myself on being competent on my own.   Flat tire, I got it;  miscarriage, I coped with it;  home broken in to, no problem.  These are some of the things we’ve all faced while our spouse has been deployed and I like to think I handle them all pretty well. 

But this time, It’s different. 

I’m just flat out lonely.

And then I remember, I have no need that exceeds His power.  

So I pray.  God wants to be in relationship with us.  He desires the outpouring of our hearts to Him.  Any relationship we cultivate and spend time on, is going to deepen and grow.  What better relationship to invest our time into?  The Lord!  The One who knows best how to fill our empty spaces.  Engage in an active relationship with Christ through prayer, worship and the Word. 

Psalm 38:9 “O Lord, all my longing is before you, my sighing is not hidden from you.” 

Then I connect.  We are made to be in relationship.  When one of our most predominant relationships, our spouse, is physically removed from us, it is natural to feel a gap.  Once you have connected to the Lord, ask Him to show you where you should connect.  Your Spouses group, a church, neighbors?   Don’t wait for others to include or invite you.  Seek out opportunities for relationship. 

Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you, do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

What helps you in the midst of your loneliness?  Who do you turn to when you are lonely? ???



2 thoughts on “Living in the Lonely

  1. This is great, Lori! I totally get this. I love your encouragement at the end. So many younger military spouses that I have daily interactions with often lament that either they don’t know how to plug in, or they are not invited to things. This Military Life really does push us out of our comfort zone and require that we take initiative on most accounts. Sitting around waiting for invitations is not going to lead us to knew friendships. We must step out of our homes and seek new experiences and adventures. Sometimes this is the toughest yet most rewarding lesson we military spouses can learn. Great to meet you here online. peace and joy, jana

    • Thanks Jana. I agree with you, we can’t sit back and wait to be invited, we have to force ourselves out of our comfort zones. It’s hard but well worth it. So glad to have had the chance to speak with you!!! Thanks for taking the time!!!

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